You love him/her…..you really do, but why do you still question variety, what else is out there, or still want to appear single in certain situations. I mean come on let’s call a spade a spade here…50% of marriages end in divorce and most of those reported due to infidelity. Why?? Because it is almost inhumane to conform to the one-size-fits-all, let’s-get-married-and- never-bang-anyone-else-ever-again theory.
Now, don’t get me wrong here. I was raised in a small town in a christian home with christian beliefs/morals/values that a man and woman were to marry, raise a family, and never go outside of the marriage…FULL Monogomy. I had always believed this is the way it works , but with these horific statistics and having a committment phobe myself…. I question if a healthy polyogomous relationship is possible. Why can’t you be in an open relationship where there are parameteres/guidelines set in a discussion that you both agree upon and that are not to be crossed. I mean bc if you truly loved your “life partner” and knowing that this is what will make them the happy to be able to do that….then what is the problem?
I am by no means saying this is for all people or couples, but I truly think it could work for some. You probably think(just as I did) well, if I really loved my significant other, the thought of having someone else with that person makes me sick!! And that is perfectly normally to be jealous of that…we as humans are naturally inclined to do so. But what if you could get over that jealousy factor??? What if you knew you were going to spend the rest of your life with your partner, loved them more than anything in the world, knew you were like minds in both WANTING it, and knew you wanted to experiment before settling down and being monogamous. Could it work???